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My 5 minute make up routine for busy mamas

Hey Mamas!

If your anything like me and rarely wear any make up and need a quick and natural make up routine for your “every once in a while look” then this one is definitely for you!

Over time [ and I mean a loooong time] I have been able to establish a make up routine that works for me. To tell you the complete and honest truth I am definitely a make up addict.I mean who can resist those  Urban Decay Naked Palettes ?! I sure can’t!  But does that mean I use every single mascara, blush, eyeshadow palette, or lipstick that I own? The answer is simply no.

When it comes to waking up [ew] and then putting on make up every single day [double ew] its just not my cup of tea. I would much rather sleep! Can I get an Amen? Your probably asking yourself, Why do you buy all that make up then?! Well, my friends, my answer to you is that I am a woman, and I do things that don’t make sense.

So with a lot of practice and timing I have been able to get my make up routine down to just 5 minutes! The faster I can look “decent”  enough to go to the mall, mommy groups, grocery shopping, and all that fun stuff moms do, the better! Here are my tips for you naturally beautiful mamas that want to add a little uphm to your day.

Please feel free to take out or add any of the steps listed below to better suit your needs.

Start with your daily beauty routine [i.e wash face, brush teeth, moisturize, stare at that imaginary pimple that you think you see].

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STEP 1. Apply your foundation of choice

I suggest using a beauty blender if you are using a liquid foundation and remember to “dab” the foundation  and not “spread” to create a natural blended look.

[optional] STEP 2. Apply the Pro Longwear Paint Pot to the lid of your eye

Pro Longwear Paint Pot is a a long-wearing blendable cream shadow that can be worn alone or with other products. You can purchase your desired Paint Pot color from your local Mac Cosmetics. Make sure to blend up towards your upper eyelid to eliminate any creasing.

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STEP 3. Apply a liquid liner to create a subtle yet dramatic effect

This is a brand new product that I am trying! I always look for make up items that are mommy friendly. What are mommy friendly items? For me, mommy friendly are products that last long and don’t need reapplying for 12 hours. This Matte Ink Liner is doing the trick so far. For a perfect line, press and hold the liner from the inner corner out. If necessary make sure to go back and fill in the line.

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STEP 4.  Apply your Mascara of choice.

As of now, I am using the in Extreme Dimension 3D BlackLash, a carbon black mascara with a large molded brush that creates extreme volume and curl! You may also purchase this from Mac Cosmetics. Instead of using the “zig zag” technique I suggest to go upwards with the brush to create a fuller look.

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STEP 5. Apply your desired highlighter, blush, bronzer, etc.

Too add a little shimmer to my face, I use the Mineralize Skinfinish in Soft & Gentle, this product is also from Mac Cosmetics. Using a  small powder brush, apply the highlighter to on the upper cheeks in a circular motion. Make sure you don’t use a whole lot of this product.. well you can if you want to look like a glitter unicorn 😉

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STEP 6. Finish off your look with a natural tone lipstick !

 

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Notice a pattern here?! I go hard on the “natural” but not really look! ha! Any who I hope you enjoyed my very first make up post!

I would love to hear some of your daily make up routines. What make up item can you not leave the house with?

with love,

HEYDY

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5 questions I have been asked about being a Teen Mom

Over the past 8 years I’ve transitioned from being a teen mom, to a young mom, to just mom.  I’ve always felt that society has categorized me of my mom status based on my age and it got me thinking about all the questions I’ve encountered since becoming a teen mom. Some of the questions are just uncalled for and I don’t know why people think that it is ok to ask them! Nonetheless, I decided to share the most repeated ones!

NUMBER 1.

Q: What did your mom say when you told her that you were pregnant?

 A: hmmm.. let me think.. my mom didn’t say much, it was more of how she reacted that stuck in my brain. She was VERY upset. She cried, I cried, we cried together. She knew how hard it was going to be for me for the next few years. One thing is for sure is that she never left my side. I Love you mom! [hehe]

NUMBER 2.

Q: Where you scared?
A: Of course! I was scared for what was to come, the unknown territory. Scared of what the kids at school would say about me. Scared of what society would think of me. Scared of not finishing school. Scared of not being able to take care of Jayden properly. Just scared.

 NUMBER 3.

Q: What made you “keep” the baby?
A: Well, first, I’m not going to lie and say that, at the time, that abortion never crossed my mind. I was 15 for heavens sake! Once I told my mom that I was pregnant, she insisted that I face the consequence of my actions. Her words “If I wanted to act like an adult then I would need to deal with the consequences like an adult”. Some of you may have think that was the deciding factor that changed the rest of my life, but to be honest, I didn’t want to have an abortion, something inside told me it wasn’t the right path for me.

NUMBER 4.

Q: How did it feel to be a teen mom?
A: I think this may be my favourite question because when you are living the life of a teen mom, you don’t really notice how you feel. You are basically shot into adulthood and you just…do it. [Nike reference anyone?] Of course, being a teen mom isn’t easy, definitely not ! and can I just touch on this quickly…since I am talking about teen pregnancy… What you see on MTVs Teen MOM is NOT a great representation. I can write a  blog post about my Pro’s and Con’s on that show later… It is hard to use a particular “feeling”. I felt so many different feelings, happy, sad, nervous, excited, scared.. I literally could go on for a while.
Last, but certainly not least,

NUMBER 5.

Q: If you could, would you change anything?
A: Simple and easy no. I’ll tell you why, because I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle. As I think back, I wonder how my life would be if Jayden wasn’t in it. and It gives me the chills thinking about the possibilities. I was meant to be his mom, and he was meant to be my son.

Could you imagine answering the same questions over and over for 8 years?! AND the questions haven’t stopped. Once people figure out that I was a teen mom, I can see their minds running for either A) try to figure out what to say that won’t offend me OR B) They are so shocked that they just word vomit and just dig themselves into a hole. It is quite humorous to me..I have to find some Joy in it all right?

I strongly believe that I need to make my community aware about the truths of teen pregnancy. I will be following up with a post of “Questions not to ask a Teen Mom” super soon! Stay tuned and thanks for reading.

xoxo,

Heydy

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Burp Necessity REVIEW + GIVEAWAY

When Abel was born, I thought it would be exactly (or easier) the same when I had Jayden. I was so wrong. Not only are the experiences the complete opposite but I also had to relearn how to be a mom to a baby.

One major difference was that Abel was diagnosed with baby reflux. Reflux is the word to describe what happens when the stomach contents (food or milk) come back up into the mouth. Baby reflux happens because the babies digestive system hasn’t properly developed yet. When the babies stomach is full they tend to burp and spit up, which is normal. However, if your baby is projectile vomiting, constantly feeding and not gaining any weight then it’s probably reflux.

With every feed, I would use a new burping cloth. I probably used 5 a day! Abels reflux was that bad! When I would burp Abel, he would miss the burping cloth and I would end up with puke all over my clothes! The worse was when I had to burp Abel in public, I would literally have to pack extra clothes just in case because I didn’t want to walk around in public smelling like throw up.

 

Alas, I came across www.burpnecessity.com (on Instagram of course) and found my solution to all that laundry !

Burp Necessity, was created by Kathy Fitzgerald, who was sick and tired of using small, unflattering and inconvenient burp cloths that never stayed on. These burp shawls are not only trendy, but actually do their job. The burp shawls, sit on both my shoulders, covering my upper back( I’m 5’3 tall) as well as the front of my chest and then some. T O N S of coverage that isn’t offered by normal burping cloths (usually just one shoulder).

All Burpshawls,are handmade in Seattle, Washington, with 100% soft minky polyester. The trim is 50/50 cotton/poly and is prewashed to prevent shrinkage.

 

TIP: Simply reverse the Burpshawl and use the Ivory minky fabric side for a second look! The fabric is super soft against your babies skin!

 

I seriously wish I came across @burpnecessity during pregnancy because I would have 100% put their burpshawls on my baby registry and could have avoided all that stinky and dirty laundry!

Because I love Burp Necessity and their multi-functional burpshawls so much, I’ve partnered with them and we’re giving away a burpshawl away to one of my lucky readers!! That’s a $34 USD value! Please enter through the rafflecopter below!


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Just the two of us

Hello Kismetlove readers !

My name is Heydy. I am Jayden and Abel’s mommy. I blog over at www. raisingjayandabel.blogspot.com. I am so thrilled and honoured to be sharing my breastfeeding journey with you!

Our breastfeeding journey has been…well.. quite a rollercoaster [and I’m still on it]. I knew that breastfeeding wasn’t going to be a breeze for the first couple weeks [at least for me]. I had to learn a new, world changing, skill in just a few short days. But, I didn’t want to let my anxiety and exhaustion stop me from reaching my breastfeeding milestones.

While I was pregnant I had set some personal breastfeeding goals for myself. Since I never got to breastfeed Jayden, reaching these goals were [and are] very important to me.
 

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The first was reaching 3 months of exclusive breastfeeding. Now I will admit, it was tough for me. At first, all I wanted to do was give up. I was exhausted, I was emotional, I was frustrated. I would think to myself “why isn’t Abel latching”, “what am I doing wrong” and “will it ever get better?”  I obviously didn’t have the answers, so I reached out and asked for help.  I read tons of articles and watched tons of videos! I slowly started applying what I was learning to our breastfeeding attempts.

Slowly, but  surely, I started to enjoy breastfeeding. I found that the best feeding position for us was when laid down together. Abel could latch easier and we both could rest.

Breastfeeding was second nature while we waved goodbye to the 3 month mark and said hello to our 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding!
I was so ecstatic that I reached my second goal ! Still had some trouble with sore nipples but nothing that I couldn’t handle. Sleepless nights were starting to become just a mere memory, then it hit us hard. Just when I thought that we were settling into a routine, Abel began to cluster feed.
 

Abel at 6 months

This happened around the 7 month mark and this is were we are currently.

I wake up 3-4 times a night to feed Abel. Just as much as I did when Abel was a newborn. To top it all off, he is also cutting his two bottom teeth while dealing with his separation anxiety stage.
Needless to say, this mama is tired.
I continue to take our breastfeeding journey day by day. Sometimes I just want to cave in and give him formula, because I am so exhausted. Then I remember, I might not get this moment with him again and then I pause..and take a breath.
I know some mama’s have no issues when it comes to their breastfeeding journey with their Little’s. I am, unfortunately, not one of them.
We will be celebrating our 8 month breastfeeding anniversary in a couple days and all I can think about is how far we both come. I know we will get through our little hump. We just have to keep pushing through.
xoxo,
Heydy

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Teen mom OG

Hey guys!!
First off, thank you to all the people who took the time to read my “20 Facts” post! I received incredible feed back 😀
This post is a little bit more serious… I decided to write about my experience as a Teen mom.
Many of you reading know…or found out by reading my last post that my oldest son, Jayden Ray, was born when I was 16 years old… automatically classifying me as a quote on quote “Teen mom”.
I want to be honest with you all, I had such a hard time trying to figure out how I would write going forward. but I decided to just write my posts the way I would talk to my family and friends. I don’t want to put up a front on my blog because that’s not me. ANYWHO, I will stop rambling now…. 😉
I’ve always wanted to share my story..when I was 15 years old, I found out what I was pregnant with Jayden…I still remember the day like it was yesterday. I couldn’t believe it. I was SO scared.. especially to tell my mom. She worked so hard to try to avoid this. She WAS NOT happy at all to say the least. But she stuck by me and said “Heydy, you want to act like an adult, you have to deal with consequences”. So I did just that. I went through my pregnancy and did all the necessary steps to be successful. I was SO adamant that I was not going to be a statistic.
So I enrolled into the Young Parent Program that is offered here in Vancouver. If you are wondering what that is.. It is a program to help “Young Parents” who are pregnant, have a newborn, toddler, or child, complete high school. It is actually an amazing program and if it wasn’t for that program I don’t know where I would be right now.
Dragging myself out of bed every morning, with little to no sleep, to go to school was difficult. Especially, knowing that I had to commute 45 mins, on a bus & train, with a baby, to get to there . BUT, I did it, every school day for two years (unless my mom was feeling nice and drove me :P). You never really know what your capable of until you have no other choice.
Well, I’m lucky that I did drag myself out of bed, because I was able to get a scholarship to go to college. Which, coming from a low-income family, was a huge deal.
I graduated from high school in June 2009 and I knew if I didn’t go to college right away, I wouldn’t want to go in the future. So, I decided to take the Legal Administrative Assistant program and started that in September 2009. I was also able to manage to work P/T on the weekends so I had money to support myself.
I really didn’t want to go on welfare…so this was my life for 5 years, going to school and working. I hated the fact that I had to put Jay in daycare since birth. It hurts me to think I missed out on some of his milestones.
I managed to get a job as a LAA 6 months after I graduated from college in Feb 2011, and while I was looking for a LAA position I worked as a sales associate at one of the malls in Vancouver.

FINALLY! the day came that I was able to support myself and Jayden (that took a while) and I got a position as a LAA. All my hard work had paid off. I LOVE that I decided to go school, and I really want to go back to school to become a Paralegal.
I could go on and on, but I won’t because Abel is getting up. If you are wondering, I did go through a lot of trial and tribulations. I’ve moved countless of times, I worked so many different jobs, I went through a major break-up with Jayden’s dad causing many times in the courtroom. I’ve gotten plenty of stares from strangers, called names, and been told that I made a mistake keeping Jayden. I kept my head held high and of course I wanted to give up, but it just wasn’t an option for me.
IT WAS ALL WORTH IT & I would not take anything back.

Jayden will be turning 8 this September and it brings tears to my eyes thinking of everything we had to go through together. He made me who I am today. I believe that God sent Jayden to me at the right time and I’m so glad he did because I was headed down the wrong path.

I really want my experience as a teen mom to be heard so that any other young mom who is currently going through what I went through, knows, that it is NOT impossible to be successful, you just have to work EXTRA hard for it. I may not be rich with money, but I am rich with so many other things.

I wouldn’t be here without the support of my family and friends. They constantly encouraged me to move forward and to never give up. Because, in the end, after all my struggles and hardships as a teen mom, I am HAPPY with my life. I mean isn’t that the ultimate goal ?Thank you to all for reading and if you would like to ask me any question feel free to do so!
If you know a young/teen mom, lift them up, empower them, encourage them. If you are a teen/young mom then keep going because all the hardships are worth the rewards.
Lots of Love,
Heydy xoxo

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